Soft Life Diaries: What Soft Living Really Looks Like For Me

What the Soft Life Really Looks Like For Me:

Let’s be real, the soft life isn’t just matcha lattes and early morning Pilates, trendy outfits, and a perfectly clean apartment. For me, it goes way deeper than that.

It’s about finding myself again in a season where things feel confusing, overwhelming, and honestly kind of lost. It’s about letting go of the pressure to constantly be doing more or becoming more. And instead, slowly (but intentionally) building a life I actually want—one that feels like mine. Not perfect. Far from it. But peaceful. And that’s more than enough.

The Soft Life Isn't Always Aesthetic:

Some days, the soft life looks like putting your phone on DND, crying in the shower, or just sitting in silence while the sun hits your skin because your mind feels too loud. It’s easy to scroll and suddenly feel behind, whether it’s in how someone looks, the way they live, or where they’re vacationing. But the truth is, social media only captures a glimpse of the full picture.

And more often than not, that glimpse is filtered, staged, or completely curated to look a certain way. It can give a really false sense of who someone is or what their life is actually like. Trying to make your life look soft is exhausting. For me, living softer doesn’t mean faking peace or chasing perfection, it means being intentional. It means checking in with myself, honoring where I’m at, and creating a life that feels good, even if it doesn’t always look perfect. The soft life is about alignment, not aesthetics. What feels soft to me might look totally different for you and that’s exactly the point.

What I'm Doing to Actually Live Softer:

I’m still figuring it out and I’m definitely not claiming to have it all mastered. But I’ve started making small shifts, soft shifts, that feel really good to me:

• Slowing down and not forcing myself to always be productive

• Creating gentle morning rituals (even if it’s just sitting with my tea)

• Taking walks to clear my head instead of doom scrolling

• Saying no more often without over-explaining or over-thinking

• Letting my space be cozy and lived in, not always spotless

• Giving myself permission to rest, really rest

• Being more confident in who I am and the choices I make

• Letting go of needing everything to be deep or serious—sometimes going with the flow, choosing fun, and not overthinking is exactly what I need

It’s not about doing everything perfectly, it’s about doing what feels right for me, even if it changes day to day.

Who I'm Becoming:

I’m becoming the kind of woman who knows she’s that girl, but doesn’t need to say it out loud or prove it to anyone. I want to be someone who leads with grace, who expresses gratitude often, and who pours back into the people and places that pour into me. I want to be surrounded by people who truly inspire me, who love me for who I am, who align with my values, and remind me of my worth when I forget.

I’m letting go of the version of me who held onto relationships just so I wouldn’t feel alone. I’m done with one-sided friendships and comparing myself to people I don’t even want to become. I’m letting go of the traits I used to think were just me—like being indecisive or needing outside validation. Maybe they were part of me once, but they don’t have to stay forever. I’ve found my voice, and I’ve learned how to trust it.

That trust didn’t come easily, I was kind of forced into it. Life shifted, and I had no choice but to go my own way. But in doing so, I learned that change isn’t something to fear, it’s something that grows you. And now, I’m becoming someone who can hold herself through it all with softness, with strength, and with a whole lot more self-love.